Top 10 ways to inspire others to be their best

We all know people who are inspiring. But just how does one inspire others? Here are ten simple ways you can inspire people to be their best:

1. Be a good example. People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating.
2. Care about others.

People don't care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Ask questions. Take a genuine interest in people.

3. Encouragement.

Everyone goes through tough times. When you support people and encourage them through these times, you'll be inspiring them to see the best in themselves and in the situation.

4. Be inspired yourself.

Look for people, ideas, environments and knowledge that you find inspiring and motivating.

5. Share from your own experience.

You have more to share than you realize. Mine the rich experiences of your life and share your wisdom from your unique point of view. You may be the only one who can touch someone with your inspiring message.

6. Be vulnerable.

Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They'll understand that they're not the only ones with challenges.

7. Tell stories.

Facts tell and stories sell. They inspire, too. We learn best from parables and we all need to develop our own inspiring stories.

8. Be a good communicator.

Increasing your ability to communicate effectively is a critical element for you to inspire others. Watch how you speak and what you say. Invest in your communication skills.

9. Challenge people.

Many of us have had teachers who at times seemed more like tormentors than mentors. They challenged us to do our best, and we were better for it. Practice "care-frontation"— the careful and caring confrontation of others.

10. Read.

It may not follow that all readers are leaders, but certainly all leaders are readers. Stay informed. Share what you read with others. Tell people about books that have inspired you. Share the knowledge.

Using qualifiers

Methods

A qualifier is a word or phrase that changed how absolute, certain or generalized a statement is.

Qualifiers include:      *Qualifiers of quantity: some, most, all, none, etc.
     *First, Qualifiers of time: occasionally, sometimes, now and again, usually, always, never, etc.
     *Qualifiers of certainty: I guess, I think, I know, I am absolutely certain, etc.
     *Qualifiers of relative quality: best, worst, finest, sharpest, heaviest, etc.

Use qualifiers to send signals. Also spot the qualifiers used by other people and either challenge these directly or use them as indicators of their deeper thoughts and thinking processes.




Discussion We often use qualifiers unintentionally, and they act as signals, flagging to the other person our inner thoughts. Thus a person who you are persuading will use qualifiers to show how really interested or committed they are to your idea.

People who see the world in black and white are likely to use absolute qualifiers. Absolute qualifiers are also likely to be used by people who are 'taking a position' or feel backed into a corner. If you push people too hard they may thus use absolute qualifiers as a defensive move.

Relative qualifiers are signals either of uncertainty or a desire to please. People may see others as superior in some way, perhaps more expert, and thus may use relative qualifiers as an escape clause.Example I never spoke to that person. I am absolutely certain of this.

I don't usually reduce the price on these.

You said you disliked most of these. Which ones do you like?

You said you always have dark green. Have you ever had another shade? Relative qualifiers Use relative qualifiers when you want to allow for real-world variation. Use them when you suspect the other person may challenge an absolute qualifier.

When others use relative qualifiers, dig further for details about how relative the qualifier is. Again, you can seek counter-arguments that will provide support for your argument.Absolute qualifiers Use absolute qualifiers (all, none, always, never, etc.) when you want to appear decisive and when the other person to be certain about a decision.

Where others use absolute qualifiers, question how absolute the argument is, seeking even one counter-item that breaks their absolute position. This then opens the possibility of other such instances.

Motivation

Using qualifiers


Methods


A qualifier is a word or phrase that changed how absolute, certain or generalized a statement is. Qualifiers include:      *Qualifiers of quantity: some, most, all, none, etc.
     *First, Qualifiers of time: occasionally, sometimes, now and again, usually, always, never, etc.
     *Qualifiers of certainty: I guess, I think, I know, I am absolutely certain, etc.
     *Qualifiers of relative quality: best, worst, finest, sharpest, heaviest, etc.

Use qualifiers to send signals. Also spot the qualifiers used by other people and either challenge these directly or use them as indicators of their deeper thoughts and thinking processes. Absolute qualifiers Use absolute qualifiers (all, none, always, never, etc.) when you want to appear decisive and when the other person to be certain about a decision.

Where others use absolute qualifiers, question how absolute the argument is, seeking even one counter-item that breaks their absolute position. This then opens the possibility of other such instances. Relative qualifiers Use relative qualifiers when you want to allow for real-world variation. Use them when you suspect the other person may challenge an absolute qualifier.

When others use relative qualifiers, dig further for details about how relative the qualifier is. Again, you can seek counter-arguments that will provide support for your argument.Example I never spoke to that person. I am absolutely certain of this.

I don't usually reduce the price on these.

You said you disliked most of these. Which ones do you like?

You said you always have dark green. Have you ever had another shade? Discussion We often use qualifiers unintentionally, and they act as signals, flagging to the other person our inner thoughts. Thus a person who you are persuading will use qualifiers to show how really interested or committed they are to your idea.

People who see the world in black and white are likely to use absolute qualifiers. Absolute qualifiers are also likely to be used by people who are 'taking a position' or feel backed into a corner. If you push people too hard they may thus use absolute qualifiers as a defensive move.

Relative qualifiers are signals either of uncertainty or a desire to please. People may see others as superior in some way, perhaps more expert, and thus may use relative qualifiers as an escape clause.

How to be a Dreem Employee

LEARN TO COPE WITH CRITICISM

When you can distinguish between constructive comments and negative remarks,

you can use them to your advantage. Criticism from someone who has taken time to assess your work can be valuable, whereas an ill-tempered tirade is best ignored. Develop a filter to reject any irrational criticism.

ADMIT YOU'RE OVERLOADED

If you're regularly working through lunch and late into the evening, yet still not keeping up,

ask for help. Go to your boss as soon as you realise you have a problem. But don't just whine pointlessly; make sure you spell out your situation. Your boss has given you the work,

but you're the one who knows what's really involved.

DEVELOP A NEW SKILL EACH YEAR

Continually upgrading your skills will keep you one step ahead. They'll make you more valuable or even help you make a smooth transition to another company. The main attribute employers look for in employees is flexibility. And at the very least you'll be keeping yourself interested in your job.

HELP YOUR BOSS SUCCEED

Bosses appreciate staff who help them look good. Any little thing you can do to help your boss keep her job will help you keep yours. Loyalty is very important. You can support them by giving feedback - positive and negative - but word your criticism carefully.


HAVE PLAN B UP YOUR SLEEVE

It's important to have a second strategy in mind should your original plan of action be thwarted. Someone who offers solutions rather than problems will be viewed as enthusiastic and committed. It shows you're not avoiding responsibility when things get difficult.


AVOID BEING A CHANGE CASUALTY

Many people resist change, whether it's a new procedure for ordering stationery or a corporate merger, but these people will be the first to go when job cuts are made. Don't fight change. Being able to go with it is the key to remaining employed, never mind being a good employee.

How to Succeed a 15 point plan…

Gossip

* Don't talk negatively about people behind their backs.

   If you gossip, people won't confide in you.

   Mind your own business.

* Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers.

   You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.

* Successful bosses have good communication skills.

   They learn from people, including their employees.

* Work in such a way that makes your boss look good.

   It's not flattery.

* On downsizing, the first to go are those with few friends.

   Bosses prefer competent people whom they respect.

* Dress for the job you want, not the one you have.

   Let your dress reflect professionalism.

* Workout to get in good physical shape.

  Unless exceptionally skilled, the unhealthy are at a comparative disadvantage.

* Personal integrity is crucial. Tell nothing but the truth.

   Bosses can forgive mistakes. but if you lie, you're gone.

* Be on time.

   Try to arrive few minutes early.

  It saves you from stress.

  You'll be much relaxed & work better

* Strive your best to keep a deadline.

   If you cannot meet it, then apologize & ask for an extension

*  Don't take things personally.

    If some people are unhappy with you, it's their problem.

    But always strive to give your best.

* If you must correct someone,don't get personal about it.

   Do it never in front of others.

* Spend some time alone everyday.

   What's the mission of my life?

   What do I want to be?

   And how to go about it.

* As you move along Plan A of your career,
   maintain a Plan B as well —an alternative course to rely

Always remember that the secret of success is passion.

Always think big. Spread love & joy.

You'll have blissful years ahead

Decision Making

Train Track and Children

The story given here is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train came, and you were just beside the track interchange. You could make the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids.

However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?

Which one will you choose?

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make................

Analyse the situation………….

Think and reflect…….

Decided your answer !!!!

Now … go ahead

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. To save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

To make the proper decision is not try to change the course of the train because the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens.

If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe.

If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids

While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one. "Remember that what's right isn't always popular...  and what's popular isn't always right."

Remember

Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils

Sick Leave Policy - Fun

SICKNESS:
No excuse...We will no longer accept your doctor's statement as proof. We believe that if you are able to go to the doctor, you are able to come to work.

AN OPERATION:
We are no longer allowing this practice. We wish to discourage any thoughts that you may need an operation. We believe that as long as you are an employee here, you will need all of whatever you have and should not consider having anything removed. We hired you as you are, and to have anything removed would certainly make you less than we bargained for.

DEATH:
Other than your own:
This is no excuse for missing work. There is nothing you can do for them, and we are sure that someone else can attend to the arrangements. However, if the funeral can be held in the late afternoon, we will be glad to allow you to work through your lunch hour and subsequently let you leave 1 hour early, provided your share of the work is ahead enough to keep the job going in your absence.
Your own:
This will be accepted as an excuse. However, we require at least two weeks notice as we feel it is your duty to train your replacement.

ALSO:
Entirely too much time is being spent in the restroom. In the future, we will follow the practice of going in alphabetical order. For instance, those whose names begin with "A" will go from 8:00-8:15, and so on. If you're unable to go at your time, it will be necessary to wait until the next day when your time comes again.
We appreciate your cooperation,
THE MANAGEMENT

Six Ways to Make People Like You

Rule 1:  Become genuinely interested in other people.

Rule 2:  Smile.

Rule 3:  Remember that a person’s name is to him or her

The sweetest and most important sound…

Rule 4:  Be a good listener.

Encourage others to talk about themselves.

Rule 5:  Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

Rule 6:  Make the other person feel important—

And do it sincerely.

Elevate Others: The Simplest Leadership Practice

People crave recognition. Everyone needs to know that they are doing well, that they are appreciated, that what they do matters. It is hard-wired into us. Watch someone after they have received a compliment for their work. They shine.

Yet we so rarely call a meeting to discuss what's going right in the organization and who's responsible. We think that its our job to solve problems, not hand out praise. Wrong. It's our job to act like a leader. And leaders make everyone around them better. More capable. More engaged. More positive.

Giving honest praise is one of the most powerful leadership actions you can take. (And remember: if you consume oxygen you are a leader.) No matter where you are in the organization you can find someone doing something right and recognize them. Whether it's a vendor who is impeccably polite, a colleague who is outrageously punctual or a supervisor who listens deeply. Every one of them is a human being who deserves and craves recognition. And when you give them that recognition they will go out and make someone else's day better. What a powerful way to spread leadership.

So think about your organization, your community or your family and try some of the following simple strategies for elevating others. Observe how people respond, the results will astound you.

1. Honest praise. Tell someone what you admire about their performance or their attitude.
2. Public praise. Share someone's victory with the rest of the team.
3. Thank you notes. A handwritten card thanking someone for their help will be the highlight of their day.
4. Support them. Say yes to a colleague's ideas. Find a way to incorporate their input into your plan.

A Butterfly’s Lesson

”One day, a small opening appeared in a cocoon; a man sat and watched for the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole.

Then, it seems to stop making any  progress.

It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and  it could not go any further.

So the man decided to help the butterfly: he took a pair of scissors and opened the cocoon. 

The butterfly then emerged easily.

But it had a withered body, it was tiny and shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would open, enlarge and expand, to be able to support the butterfly’s body, and become firm.

Neither happened!

In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a withered body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man, in his kindness and his goodwill did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening, were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings, so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.  

Sometimes, struggles are exactly what we need in our life.

If God allowed us to go through our life  without any obstacles, it would  cripple us. We would not be as strong as we could have been. Never been able to fly.

I asked for Strength...

and God gave me  difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for Wisdom...

and God gave me problems to solve.

I asked for prosperity...

and God gave me a brain and brawn to work.

I asked for Courage…..

and God gave me obstacles to overcome.

I asked for Love...

and God gave me troubled  people to help.

I asked for Favors...

And God gave me  Opportunities.

“I received nothing I wanted...

But I received everything I needed."

Live life without fear, confront all obstacles and know that you can overcome them.

Goal Setting

Getting Organized About Life

Why do we need Goals?

l  Goals give you direction in all areas of your life – Personal, Career, Spiritual, Material, and Contribution

l  Goals give you a purpose in life.  A reason to get up early in the morning and go to bed late at night

l  Goals will put drive and passion into your life

l  Not having goals is similar to sailing a ship across the Atlantic without a map.  Goals, like maps, help you get to your destination much faster than sailing though life aimlessly

What Are Goals?

l  Goals are something that you want to achieve in the future. You set goals so that you can get better at more things, aim for something in the future and achieve more during your life.

l  Goals are the specific things, tasks or accomplishments you must complete in order to achieve the kind of life you desire.

Types of Goals

l  Long Term

¡  ultimate goal

l  Intermediate

¡  milestones leading to ultimate goal

l  Short Term

¡  smaller steps to be completed

Example

l  Long Term

¡  Become a Renown Researcher and Faculty member

l  Intermediate

¡  Obtain a Ph.D.

l  Short Term

¡  Graduate from UNL

¡  Gain Admittance to Graduate School

Setting Goals

l  First you must dream!

l  Write your ideas down on paper and decide which ones are the most important to you.

l  Review what you have written down on paper.

l  Prioritize

¡  Which of these goals are most important to you, and why?

l  On a fresh piece of paper, write down one goal at a time. Beside the heading, write down a deadline for achieving that goal.

l  To help achieve the long term goal, set a timeline using short term goals.

Getting Started

l  Where are you now?

¡  Take a current inventory. You will never know how far you have to go if you don’t know where you already are.

l  What obstacles do you need to overcome?

¡  Is there something that may make it difficult to achieve your goal? Be aware of the obstacle so you can make plans to overcome it.

Begin with the end in mind

l  Know Yourself

¡ Strengths

¡ Weaknesses

¡ Likes

¡ Dislikes

¡ Passions

¡ What makes you Complete

Goals should be
“SMART”: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely

Specific :

l  A goal is specific when you know exactly what is to be achieved and accomplished.  A simple goal is easier to understand.  Imagine your goal as specifically as you can.  Ask: Who, where, what, when, how…specifically?

Measurable :

l  Goals should be quantifiable.  Think of the evidence that will let you know you have achieved it. 

¡ For example, words like ‘better’ or ‘faster’ are not quantifiable.  “Increase my course grades by 10%” provides a clear measure for a goal.

¡ Instead of “I want to do better in all my classes”  try “I will read two chapters of history by Saturday”.

Achievable:

l  Goals are self-maintained; the achievement of the goal is up to you alone.

¡ Your goal should clearly speak to things that you have control over. 

Realistic

l  Goals are practical and possible. 

l  Set goals that are realistic for your situation, your skills, talents and interests.

l  Realistic goals are a balance between what is hard and what is easy to achieve.

l  You are the key person here so don't set a goal that you don't believe in.

¡ Make sure that you believe you can do it and that it is possible to do in the time you've set aside.

Timely

l  There is a finite duration to your effort, a deadline.

¡ For example, “by the end of June” is more specific than “toward the end of June”.  However, the most precise statement is: June 30, 20XX.

Secrets for Achieving Your Goals

l  Be flexible

l  Constantly Evaluate Your Progress 

¡ Sometimes our plans change; sometimes we get sick. Be prepared to reassess and revise your goal if necessary.

l  Never Lose Sight of Your Goal 

¡ review your goals every morning when you get up and every night before you go to bed. 

l  Don’t Procrastinate 

¡ Procrastination is a “silent killer”. 

¡ Understand that the only way to achieve your goals is to take action! 

l  A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.

¡ For example, you can't buy a $750,000 house if your income goal is only $50,000 per year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well.

l  Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.

¡  Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out.

l  Write your goal out in complete detail.

¡  Instead of writing "A new home," write "A 4,000 square foot contemporary with 4 bedrooms and 3 baths and a view of the mountain on 20 acres of land.

l  By all means, make sure your goal is high enough.

¡  Shoot for the moon, if you miss you'll still be in the stars.

l  Put A Date On It - Determine when you want the goal to be completed. 

The Benefits of Goal Setting

l You will notice an increase in your energy level as you begin to live your life with passion – the passion that having a meaningful goal will give you.

l You will be in control of your life and the direction you are heading.  Your life does not have to be determined by fate alone.  With goals, you create your destiny.

l Goals give you a purpose in life.  A reason to get up early and go to bed late.

Remember the motto, “The road to Someday, leads to the town of Nowhere”.  Someday is today!